Be true to thyself…..

Good evening,Champs..I trust that you had an AMAZING day…… Something new is brewing on the Pathway of Champions. I will be sure to keep you posted on it. Today, I want us to talk about being true to ourselves. Come with me.

Self deceit is one of the worst things that can ever happen to anybody. Nothing is worse than passionately believing the wrong thing!!! Hmmmmmmmmmmm…..Your vision is obscured, your decisions are misaligned, your actions are damning and you know whats worse??? YOU DON’T EVEN KNOW IT!

Indeed what a horrible place to be! however if the truth be said, at one point or the other, to one varying measure or the other,we have all( yes…you and I) suffered from self deceit…here are some quotes i would like you reflect on;

Take the life — lie away from the average man and straight away you take away his happiness.”  Henrik Ibsen

The heart deceives, because it is never anything but the expression of the mind’s miscalculations … I don’t know what the heart is, not I: I only use the word to denote the mind’s frailties.” Marquis de Sade

Above all, don’t lie to yourself. The man who lies to himself and listens to his own lie comes to a point that he cannot distinguish the truth within him, or around him, and so loses all respect for himself and for others. And having no respect he ceases to love.”  Fyodor DostoyevskyThe Brothers Karamazov

and now for my all time favourite quote on self deceit….

“Good God, no. The lies we tell other people are nothing to the lies we tell ourselves.”  Derek LandyDeath Bringer

The good news is that we can , yes we can, learn to be true to ourselves!!! lets talk about it, lets work on it…… join me tomorrow as I take this further in much greater detail and depth.

Be true to thyself as you keep walking the Pathway of Champions

Be true to thyself…………..The Wikipedia defines self deceit or self deception as ” a process of denying or rationalizing away the relevance, significance, or importance of opposing evidence and logical argument. Self-deception involves convincing oneself of a truth (or lack of truth) so that one does not reveal any self-knowledge of the deception.” simply put, it is believing wholeheartedly a lie put forward by one’s self, so that in your eye, mind and consciousness, the lie has now become your , (not the but your…) truth. My friends, its a dangerous place to be…..a level of insanity!!!!

Understand that because you see absolutely nothing wrong with your perception or belief, you would also see nothing wrong with the effects of the decision or actions that you carry out based on your self deception!!!! ….My brother, my sister…be true to thyself.

You believe that you are doing good, you assess yourself and score yourself high then assess others and find every and anything wanting with them……..sounds familiar??? you judge others by their actions and you judge yourself by your intentions. I know this too well…yes….at some recent point in my life, i was so deep in self deceit that everything I did ,good or bad, creative or destructive, was justified by my “intent”……..I couldn’t tell how wrong I was or had gotten. if I was in a wrong relationship with a woman, I will justify it by saying ” at least I am making her happy…I am giving joy to someone” what a lie! and i believed that lie!!!!!!!!! I was blind to how oppressive I had gotten , how i was practically destroying everything around me whilst telling myself that I was a good guy!!!!! My friend….be true to thyself!

Now imagine a leader who has self deception as regards his leadership style? you probably don’t have to stress to imagine as History and the Bible provides us with a long list of such. Imagine the husband who is tells himself that he is good man yet his wife cries to sleep every night exhausted from being left alone to carry the burden of raising the kids and running the home….hmmm..yet he is a good man. Imagine the one in the church who sincerely believes he or she is heaven bound yet sees nothing wrong with gossiping or destroying people with their mouth or projected perceptions….Or is it the one who thinks she is holy because her multitude sins and shortcomings are seemingly unknown to others????? the Governor who thinks he has done well by reconstructing government house whilst his people live in huts and dilapidated structures?????? Indeed Self deception abounds everywhere……how sad.

Now imagine with me, a nation where everyone is void of self deception and thus recognizes their shortcomings with a view to working on them and thus becoming a better people and a better nation. The danger of self deception is that since you see nothing wrong with the way you are, there is no catalyst to desire change and improvement. you stop learn and start dying!!!!!!

Be true to thyself……..there is a huge measure of vulnerability that comes with genuine self examination. You realize all of a sudden how very wrong you have been or how misaligned you have been and also realize that along the way you have negatively impacted on people. The reality of all of these can really be crushing depending how self deceived you were………………

We can be much more than this..I have seen myself grow since i had the veil removed from my eyes. it will fight everything you think you stand for but trust me, my friend, it releases you to truly be a great person.

Be true to thyself as you keep walking the Pathway of Champions

AU

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Relationships……understanding how they work for you

Great morning Champs, what a great day to be alive! here we are ,zooming towards the end of the month of MAY and I have to say, it does seem like 2017 is running on steroids…lol. May our successes come even faster!

Over the past few weeks as I have handled my varied responsibilities in my various areas of operations, it has dawned on me more than ever before that there was a need for me to review the concept of relationship! I have often said that relationship is the greatest resource that we have here on earth, whether it be relationship with our GOD ,relationship with our spouse, kids , business partners, associates, mentors or the world at large. Relationship is the vehicle via which we can execute all that we were born to do. it is so important that we are nothing without it. now with this understanding of the immensely broad concept of relationship,its critical that we pay attention to our relationships. Paying attention, in this regard, means a thorough x ray of how we relate with different people in our lives, how much access we have to them as well as how much access we grant to them, how much we desire to invest in them as well as how much we really do invest in them. it requires a genuine self examination.812827844_29738_edit

First things first, relationships must be beneficial to you! and yes, I will say it again…RELATIONSHIPS MUST BE BENEFICIAL TO YOU ….and let me clear, this is not in anyway self centered. i am not talking about material benefits…certainly not..I am talking about anything that grows you,builds you,makes you a better person, gives you warmth and emotional support among many other things….. a relationship that helps you in one way or the other fulfill your purpose here on earth! Any relationship that doesn’t do any of the afore mentioned is simply unsuitable for you. this is why you need to know how to sort, grade and place your relationships so that what you give access to only promotes your own life vision. lets have a quick look at some groups of folks we have in our lives

There are those that are with you because they love what you love but don’t necessarily dislike what you dislike…in other words, your friend is their friend but your enemy is not their enemy which means that your enemies would have access to you through that kind of friend. How much access do you really want to give that kind of friend, I ask thee?????????

Moving on,there are those that are with you because they agree with what you are against but do not necessarily stand for what you stand for……in other words you have common enemies but your friends are not their friends. here ,you have a situational relationship and such people owe you no allegiance. NOW, here is what I am trying to get you to pay attention to….there is absolute nothing wrong with these two groups of people that I just mentioned!!!! They are not bad guys…the problem is NOT with them…. the real problem is with how you see them , relate with and give access to them!!!!!! this is how people get burnt in relationships….this is how businesses and partnerships crash… because we fail to appropriately sort, grade and place our relationships

Now, allow me to re-introduce to you a group of people, usually smaller than the other two groups, who have love what you love and hate what you hate….who share the same values as you do. these are ones that should have all the access to you. they will protect your dream even when you are sleeping, they will send enablers to you even when you didn’t look out for them. your vision enables their vision even as their vision enables yours…. these are your confidants! if your spouse isn’t in this last group, you are in BIG trouble. if your closest partners in business are not in this last group, you need a re-evaluation!

So no matter how many people you have around you, in your life, you must learn to sort, grade and place them so that you deal with them as you rightly should. Relationships are designed to bring the best in you….if you don’t handle relationships rightly,they can destroy you. don’t pour out your heart to leavers and then be aloof with stayers just because you couldn’t tell which was which. this applies to every area of your life, social ,secular or business.

SORT, GRADE AND PLACE your relationships right.

keep walking the Pathway of Champions

anispeaks

AU

Leadership….AU’s view….part 1

hi Champs,
just took a pause from my schedule today to send this to you…..keep walking the Pathway of Champions

now its back to work

AU

Aniekan "AU" USOROH

Great morning Champs, what an awesome day to be alive. Consider it as another opportunity to do it better! another opportunity to keep walking along the Pathway of Champions. I am sharing some thoughts on leadership today. Please do watch out for the video posting coming soon. I am excited about connecting with you in every possible way.

Now the concept of leadership, immensely vast as it is, has always been of deep intrigue to me. if I were to ask a group of people what they understood as leadership, i was certain to get many and varied responses. such a simple question yet most answers are given at best in specific contexts. I, however, learnt many years back that Leadership is a process of social influence where a person can enlist the help, commitment,aid and support of other people in accomplishing a common task. in other words, it is…

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Between your “here” and your “there”………………….

What makes a Champion?
#theChampionsSummit

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Aniekan "AU" USOROH

Great Champions,

Awesome Tuesday???? I do certainly hope so…….I have a piece for you today…someone somewhere needs to read this…..come with me……………………….

Perhaps the most difficult part of any process in life is in the transition from one level to the another. Usually this comes with a lot of discomfort, confusion and even pain!!! You are in one place and your mind, heart and entire will is in another…you are having the mindset of a brighter tomorrow and yet you are experiencing the pains and struggles of today……hmmm. Indeed what a seemingly dreadful period or season it can be.  OK, so I have news for you, its all part of the process!!!!! You probably don’t like to hear that much, do you?? please dont slay me yet…just read on

The key is in understanding the process. The process develops you and grows you. In other words the process matures you.In…

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The Champions Summit Q &A part 1

Q: What do these amazing individuals have in common?

A: THE CHAMPIONS SUMMIT!!!!

Q: When and where is the Summit?

A: Details coming in the BIG announcement tomorrow

#anticipate

#thechampionssummit

#AUspeaks

#thepathwayofchampions

 

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The Pathway of Champions

Aniekan "AU" USOROH

Great morning to you,Champ!

Every where I go,I keep meeting people who desire to do more,grow more and get better at what they do ( and that’s a good thing really because there are lot of people that need to grow and yet no desire to do so…..). The big story is that these folks don’t know how to get better or grow further or do more. This can cause a measure of frustration …I understand that because I have been there! That is why, today, I want to help you connect those dots between your “here” and your “there” as we do on the #thepathwayofchampions . Come with me!!!

First things first…I do certainly believe that you are #wiredtowin and #equipedtoexcel and that your desire to excel is indicative of a need to review and increase your capacity. Capacity is the prerequisite to achieving what’s necessary or required to…

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lets talk about COMPETENCY….

Aniekan "AU" USOROH

Great morning Champs and what a great day to be alive…..WELCOME TO THE MONTH OF APRIL!

It’s a brand-new month and the beginning of new quarter! Quick question, how did the first quarter of the year turn out for you? Good or bad? How is the first quarter going to spur you to have an awesome new quarter? Well…guess whats coming up this quarter? It’s the CHAMPIONS SUMMIT powered by The Pathway of Champions Initiative. Its all about a SUPER you doing SUPER things in your world.…One event…One theme…One day…four Speakers!! I shall definitely keep you posted with more details as the days come by. I am super excited about that event!

Today I want to talk about COMPETENCY…. you know that “stuff” that takes you from what you would want to do or what you are required to do to what you can actually get done! I get a…

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lets talk about COMPETENCY….

Great morning Champs and what a great day to be alive…..WELCOME TO THE MONTH OF APRIL!

It’s a brand-new month and the beginning of new quarter! Quick question, how did the first quarter of the year turn out for you? Good or bad? How is the first quarter going to spur you to have an awesome new quarter? Well…guess whats coming up this quarter? It’s the CHAMPIONS SUMMIT powered by The Pathway of Champions Initiative. Its all about a SUPER you doing SUPER things in your world.…One event…One theme…One day…four Speakers!! I shall definitely keep you posted with more details as the days come by. I am super excited about that event!

Today I want to talk about COMPETENCY…. you know that “stuff” that takes you from what you would want to do or what you are required to do to what you can actually get done! I get a lot of emails and Facebook messages asking me basically one question in a million ways and that is basically how to walk the Pathway of Champion and be a super achiever??? A lot of people just cant seem to deliver on what they are expected to and that is really worrisome. in many organizations or businesses, you find folks who have the right degrees and supposed qualifications but just fail to deliver commendable performance….So today, I am going to touch on one of the key indicators of being a super achiever or a Champion or as my brother, Jimi TEWE would put it: being a 7star performer and that is……COMPETENCY!

Lets define Competency…..Competencies refer to skills or knowledge that leads to superior performance. Competencies are individual abilities or characteristics that are key to effectiveness in work. Competencies are not “fixed” and can be developed with effort and support. Competencies can apply at organizational, individual, team, and occupational and functional levels. The term Competent on the other hand is when a person is qualified to perform to a requisite standard of the processes of a job. In other words Competencies refer to skills or knowledge that leads to superior performance while Competence on the other hand means the condition or state of being competent. Hmmmmmm,OK! Lets go deeper.

Competence has 6 components namely:

  1. SKILL: A learned ability; how to do the “ what you do”(e.g. making an effective presentation)
  2. KNOWLEDGE: How you acquire information in a particular field; (e.g. Using Data based presentation)
  3. SELF IMAGE: How you see yourself (e.g. Public Speaker-Confidence)
  4. VALUES: What you consider as important (e.g. achieving excellence/ ambition)
  5. TRAITS: Relatively enduring characteristics; why and how do we behave in a certain way (e.g. self-controlled “big picture” thinking)
  6. MOTIVES: The Psychological / Physiological factors that drive your behaviour (e.g. Maslow Pyramid of needs)

These 6 components are extremely important as they wholistically put anyone in a position to excel. your SKILLS are the abilities you require to get deliverables done, KNOWLEDGE is what ensures you determine how best to deploy your skills. your SELF IMAGE is a reflection of the 3 Cs.Confidence, Charisma,and Content, that ensures that you are able to project your skills in such a way that it gives you an edge. your VALUES, TRAITS and  MOTIVES are what drives you and determines what you strive for.  Champs, do note that not one of these components singularly can deliver high performance to you. (I am going to be throwing more light on this in the days to come)

Your skills are not enough!!

There are two major categories of Competency and they are namely;

  • Threshold competency
  • Differentiating competency

As the name suggests Threshold competency is made up of components that are required to basically get the job done…nothing more! Differentiating competency ,on the other hand, refers to components that give us an edge to perform outstandingly.

So what would fall under these two categories of competency??????

Watch this Space……………

AU

Got any questions you want to ask me? mail me on aniekan.usoroh@gmail.com…..and I will be right here. keep walking The Pathway of Champions.

THE CHAMPIONS SUMMIT…..coming soon!

Leadership….AU’s view….part 1

Great morning Champs, what an awesome day to be alive. Consider it as another opportunity to do it better! another opportunity to keep walking along the Pathway of Champions. I am sharing some thoughts on leadership today. Please do watch out for the video posting coming soon. I am excited about connecting with you in every possible way.

Now the concept of leadership, immensely vast as it is, has always been of deep intrigue to me. if I were to ask a group of people what they understood as leadership, i was certain to get many and varied responses. such a simple question yet most answers are given at best in specific contexts. I, however, learnt many years back that Leadership is a process of social influence where a person can enlist the help, commitment,aid and support of other people in accomplishing a common task. in other words, it is said that a leader who is one who can guide a people , influencing them to share of a vision and harnessing their multi skills, talents and capacity to accomplish a given task. leadership cuts across every phase of life, in the market place, in the debate club, the soccer team, in the church, in the business, in the family and yes..in the self amongst many other areas.

By the way, I think that there has always been a struggle amongst many on how to define leadership .According to Business Dictionary,Leadership involves:
establishing a clear vision,
sharing that vision with others so that they will follow willingly,
providing the information, knowledge and methods to realize that vision, and
coordinating and balancing the conflicting interests of all members and stakeholders.
A leader steps up in times of crisis, and is able to think and act creatively in difficult situations.
Read more: http://www.businessdictionary.com/definition/leadership.html

Lets have a look at these points and see how we can relate to them. Establishing a clear vision implies in the strongest sense that a person is clear about what the long term intention is and what the desired outcome is…..for without vision , the people perish. Sadly we are in a generation where a lot of people wear expensive sunglasses and yet cant see where they are heading to in life hmmmmmmmmmmm…… the Vision is what determines the mission and what you need to fulfill the mission.the clarity of the vision is what energizes you to execute the mission that will deliver your vision!…..the Vision…The Vision.

A leader who lacks the ability to communicate a vision to others surely has to be one of the most frustrated persons on the face of the earth. the first step to getting people to buy into the vision is to lucidly communicate and share the said vision with them in such a way that they see the vision clearly and are consumed by it! when that is not the case, there would be a myriad of issues because where the vision isn’t plain, there cant be a clear plan on how to run with it. this is why effective communication is important. leadership cant not function without communication. A board has to be clear in its communication to management, management has to be clear in its communication to staff, supervisors need to be clear in how they communicate with “supervisees”…even more a government has to be clear in its messaging to the populace or citizens in a local government, state or country.No matter how good government policies are, or how lofty the ideas a government has for a people, if these are not properly communicated to the people, there would be a misunderstanding of the government and in turn that sets the ground for dissentment and chaos…Communication is key! So ask yourself…are you communicating clearly to those you are leading or do you think you are being communicated clearly to enough by anyone leading you. hmmmmmm

When the vision is clear, the primary responsibility of a leader is now clearly map out how best to achieve the vision using all the resources available to do so. the resources available in this instance is the skills, talents and gifting of the people he is leading while managing the difference in perspective or approach of the different people or stakeholders involved. Great leadership is the ability to identify the complex differences in your team, organization country and use them to the advantage and common good of all. There are many ways in which this can be done…one in particular, that I love and practice is called syndicate reasoning …a process whereby you allow your team to rub minds with deliberate minimal intervention(except of course to provide guidance) and knock out the myriad of  ideas been exchanged until you all arrive at an agreed “best” idea. The precise strategy for attaining a vision is primarily driven by a leader and again, yes…this strategy has to be clearly communicated. A strategy is a method or plan to be used or deployed to achieve a vision or a set objective. the method or plan would include relevant information, skills, technology and definite roadmap on execution. The clarity of the methodology of execution and how it applies or connects to the people is what gives them a sense of purpose. When a people have a sense of common purpose, ANYTHING IS POSSIBLE!

Leadership is all about Strategic focus ,establishing goals and strategic direction,Establishing principles, empowering and mentoring the team or a people to lead them to achieve a goal.

in the next edition, I am going to writing on how leaders deal with difficult situations and crises and yes…I am also going to be writing on “what a leader is not”! like I said earlier, watch out for my next video post on youtube and facebook. looking forward to it,are you??

In every area of your life, you have leadership responsibilities and you must live up to them.are you thinking long term? are you clear about your vision and doing an excellent job of communicating this vision to the people around so that it inspires them enough to own it with you and run with it???

like I would always say you are equiped to excel as you keep walking the Pathway of Champions

AU

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Its all within YOU, Champ!